mushiemallows asked: I absolutely love this blog! Thankyou so much for it <3
Thank you sexpot! More regular posts coming up next week once exams are done, promise!
Anonymous asked: I was just wondering if this was normal. I am a virgin, also have never used tampons. I've been seeing a guy and when fool around. When he tries to finger me, well he inserts one finger in slowly, the initial part feels fine, but when he gets further in to a certain spot it feel like really tight and he starts to hurt so he withdraws his finger. Is that normal? should i tell him to keep going, i mean maybe it needs to be stretched? What could it be causing the pain?
Yeah this sounds normal to me. It could be due to a number of things, either you’re feeling tense and therefore cannot relax (this means that your vaginal muscles will also tense up making it feel tighter and possible causing pain) or its simply down to the fact that he is stretching your hymen. All vaginas are different and some won’t feel pain at all during first time sex, and others will feel a lot just from fingering. Your pain sounds normal to me.
The best thing you can do is just try to relax, maybe suggest using a lubricant to help your natural wetness. Make sure the guys fingernails are short and filed down, this could also cause pain.
If you’re not comfortable discussing these things yet try exploring yourself first. This can tell you whether the pain is happening all the time or whether you’re just feeling stressed when you two are together.
Top Tip Tuesday
Food and Sex: Want to add a little extra to the bedroom without dressing up, using whips or chains and all that? Adding food into the bedroom is a sensual and sexy way to add a little extra without going too far.
Use things both you and your partner likes, these can be anything but for myself I like sweets, strawberries, raspberries, chocolate spread and whipped cream. But T even uses crisps sometimes! You can either blindfold each other and feed it to each other, or strip down and eat, lick and suck it off your partners body!
The feeling is incredible, plus if you use fruit it’s part of your five a day!
If you are worried things are going to get a little messy, lay down a towel and chow down Sex pots!
Okay, so you may think hotel sex is no different than any other sex, but trust me it is different.
In a hotel, it’s a different environment. You feel different, you feel more sexier. Nothing is nicer than knowing you can get a little down and dirty without having to worry about the sheets in the morning! Also, there is nothing quite like the floor to ceiling windows which brings out your vouyeristic side (with none of the peeping tom consquences!).
For me, a hotel brings out a side which you may not see from yourself or your partner before, because in a hotel room, it is different - it’s a completely new environment and it brings out different feelings inside of you.
Take full advantage of the double shower as well sex pots - at home for me, shower sex is a huge no no (I’m not suicidal and don’t want to end up in A&E explaining my sex injury!). A double shower means more space, and they will generally have handles in the shower for safety and leverage for you!
A hotel is a good place to explore different sides to you - whether you want to take charge or become a submissive for the first time. Whether you want to try bondage or anal - inhibitions let loose. This is your chance to explore and see what you enjoy - let’s face it, if you don’t enjoy it you don’t have to think about it as it’s not in your ‘normal’ place. But if do enjoy it, you can bring it back to the bedroom as a saucy reminder of your little get away!
Also, take full advantage of room service; if you want to make a little romantic ambience; a chilled bottle of wine and strawberries and sharing a bath together or chilling in bed is the perfect way to spice things up without loosing the romance.
What do you think of hotel sex? Enjoy it? Think it’s over rated? Let us know!
-p.s; sorry about the lack of posts sex pots, as Isla’s post said before - exams and life have come in the way, but everything will be back on schedule soon!
Sorry if you’re feeling neglected sex pots…
Life and exams have been getting in the way… back to normal soon, promise.
I & L xoxo